Do you not know?

I mentioned in my About the Author page my love for Lord of the Rings, and that I might speak of it a few times in my posts…so here’s the first one 🙂

If anyone has seen Return of the King you would remember these four lines that (might possibly have) made you cry. These are the last four lines that Eowyn said to Aragorn right before he left on the “eve of battle”…the battle for Middle Earth. Throughout the Two Towers and eventually in Return of the King we see Eowyn’s feelings for Aragorn grow more and more (he is pretty attractive though so I completely understand her :p).

“Do you not know?”

These four lines always make me cry, because these are the lines when Eowyn reveals her love for him, and the glimmer of hope is all so bright. I’ve been there, the feeling of hope and despair all at the same time. I imagined what was going through his mind at the time, but became so clear when I saw the look in his eyes. I imagined he was trying to find the words to say to not hurt me, but to let me know that “he cannot give me what I seek.” Those were Aragorn’s words to Eowyn when she said those words to him.

Have you been there ladies? Has there been that one guy who you just knew was going to be your future husband, but he just didn’t see what you saw? Don’t be ashamed, it happens to us more than you know.

As much as I LOVE Arwen (Aragorn’s future wife), I think I relate more to Eowyn. She’s strong, firm,  and seemingly independent, but when it comes to love I’m sure (like me) she felt like everything she needed to be complete was in his eyes. She was raised a princess, and had everything she ever needed, but for some reason she was always so sad. Her life seemed to get 10 times worse when her brother was banished from the kingdom, but then Aragorn came in, legitimately at the right time. I know all too well what was going through her mind when she saw his face, and the moments afterward were probably telling signs that “clearly he’s in love with me too.” You girls know what I’m talking about, that super nice guy who’s just the ultimate sweetheart, who accidentally leads on every girl that comes to his path. He doesn’t know or realize, he’s just being himself. There’s nothing he’s doing wrong, but we, sometimes too desperately, read too far into the normality of the “nice guy.”

Is this where you are? You’re probably wondering and trying to guess how he feels, and you become so tired with everything that you say to yourself, “I’m just going to tell him my feelings!” Don’t do this my sisters! Be patient!

“Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.” 1 Corinthians 13: 4-7

I know it’s hard, it’s so hard to be patient when the world, your feelings, and even your friends are pushing you to “just tell him.” But we are to wait, it is the man’s job to pursue you…you should not pursue him. I have heard of many true love stories that have taken years to unfold, but it’s all the more sweeter when you are patient.

God has a plan, and He knows EXACTLY what He’s doing. These feelings you have for him, you have them for a reason. Whether you get to be with him or not, in the end you will know, but you must be patient, and wait on God’s timing…we like to say mother knows best, but I think it’s safe to say Father knows best.

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–Sarah Skepple

“He must have blue eyes, a pretty smile, and play guitar…

The other day I came across…the list.

You remember right? That list you made when you were like 13 of your “Future Husband (capitalized because of his great importance!)”

It went a little something like this:

1) Christian (of course! Jesus first!)

2) Attractive (derr! Anywhere between the Jonas Brothers and Leo DiCaprio)

3) Caring (you know, like my dad!)

4) Funny (he HAS to make me laugh!)

5) Sweet (like the princes in the Disney movies…and like Noah in the Notebook)

6) Pretty eyes (preferably blue)

(and as a side note…)

7) Plays guitar (so he can strum me to sleep)

I had to laugh as I read my “List.” (not saying my list looked anything like this ;)) What was I thinking? How could I put my future man of God into this little box? And if he DIDN’T have these qualities…*boot*! Next!

As I began thinking about what was going through my mind at the time I remembered something my mother told me when I proudly showed her my list. “Why does he have to have blue eyes? That’s unfair!” I never really considered it to be unfair…and then I finally met my blue-eyed prince charming and thought he was the one. He hit every single item on my list…in line…perfectly (so I thought), and after that I was hooked to him. When God finally pulled me away and showed me why he was not the one for me, through long nights of tears, anger, and shame all of those items slowly dwindled down…to 1. Christian.

The ONLY thing we as women of God should be looking for in our future husband is, is he a Christian? Will he guide and lead me towards God as a Christian man of God should? My dear ladies of Christ, once you know your man is a Christian man of God, everything else will fall into place. How will you know? Good question, you’ll know by prayer, trusting God, and reading His Word. God has clearly shown us what a man of God is to look like, act like, talk like, and most importantly, live like, from His word. Don’t lose heart my dear sisters, God knows what He’s doing. Is not our God the same One who made morning and night? The same One who made the Heavens and the Earth? The same One who kept Noah, his family, and ALL the animals in the ark safe? The same One who parted the seas for Moses and the children of Israel? And is He not, my sisters, the same One who rose up from the grave on the third day? We need not worry for anything, especially who God has as our future mate. His timing is the only timing, and He will bring him to you when the time is right, all we need to do is trust and obey as the old hymn says, “Trust and obey, for there’s no other way, to be happy in Jesus, but to trust and obey.”

–Sarah Skepple

Matthew 10:29-31 “Are not two sparrows sold for a cent? And yet not one of them will fall to the ground apart from your Father. But the very hairs of your head are all numbered. So do not fear; you are more valuable than many sparrows.”